How to Shift from Discouragement to Faith so You Can Have True Love
I have had women say to me I should just give up on love, maybe then I will finally meet my life partner.
Giving up does not work.
In fact all that happens when you give up is… you give up. And then after a year or so of nothing changing you will end up right back where you started. Still wanting a relationship and not having one.
So what does work?
Caroline was a guy magnet all her life. She was sexy and flirty, smart and fun. She easily met men and easily got into relationships. In fact as soon as one relationship ended she would quickly find another. But with each failed relationship she became more and more discouraged. How many more breakups was she going to have to go through before finally meeting The One? Her biological clock was ticking and she was ready to settle down.
She decided to take a break from her vigorous pursuit of men. She got coaching and took inventory on her relationships and her life. She began to focus more on her career, she took care of her health and exercised more. She pursued hobbies like golf and racquet ball. She also decided to undergo fertility to freeze her eggs. That took a lot of the pressure off.
She was still “out there” but she began to feel more at peace and not so urgent to “Meet the One Now”.
And guess what happened? While working out one day, she met a guy. Not her “usual type” at all she said.
And within the year she was engaged, married AND expecting her first child.
Did she ever give up? NO.
Her intention was always clear- that she wanted to be married and have a family.
But she made a shift from desperation and discouragement to calm and trusting.
What energy are you putting out about finding a relationship?
- Do you feel sorry for yourself wondering why you can’t have the one thing that you want?
- Are you sitting at home doing nothing or spending your spare time in negativity complaining with your other single friends and wondering why you are still alone?
- Are you waiting for someone who is not interested in the same level of commitment as you, hoping he will “come around”?
- Are you telling yourself you just “don’t have time” or you will wait until “the kids get older” meanwhile in your heart you know these may be just excuses?
Here’s the Good News!!
You don’t have to do force yourself to do something that does not feel good.
Finding true love requires a combination of acknowledging your deep desire to share your life with your true love, surrendering your desire to Spirit, God or a Higher Power and then following your Divine Guidance and taking intuitive action to make your desire a reality!
Take Caroline for example. She followed her intuition to freeze her eggs and focus her energy on her own health and well being. And look what happened. In just a few short months she met her True love.
If you feel a calling in your heart to share your life with someone, to experience a True Love relationship that calling is from Spirit. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Ask your Divine Guidance- what is my next step? Is it to enroll in a particular activity? Is it to pray or meditation more? Maybe you need to get help healing from some difficult experiences from the past or some unhealthy relationship patterns. Follow your intuition and take that next step.
Just remember, Your True Love is Waiting for You, Just Like You Are Waiting for Him.