When you think of flirting what image comes to your mind?
Do you picture Scarlett O’Hara batting her eyes and fanning herself? Or perhaps you think of flirting as being a tease, leading men on or using sex to “lure them in”.
Flirting is actually a fun and playful way to create chemistry and attraction between with you and the guy you adore.
Best of all, since humans and animals have been flirting since the beginning of time, you are actually a natural at it!
After my divorce I was on a road trip with a male friend of a friend. We did not really know each other well and had a four hour car ride ahead of us. After about hour 3, we were laughing and joking with each other. At one point as he was teasing me about something, so I playfully punched his arm and gave him a flirty smile. All of a sudden it occurred to me, wow I was flirting! It had been so long, I didn’t even realize I still knew how! Flirting really does come naturally to you, even if you are out of practice.
TOP 5 WAYS TO FLIRT
- Eye Contact is the BEST Way. Smiling and making eye contact is the absolutely best way to flirt.
- Touching Yourself. Think Sinead O’Connor. Touching your hair, neckline or face actually sends a signal of interest – Just casually, not erotically.
- Playful banter. Teasing and joking is a great way to have fun and show you’re interested. Laughter is very attractive!
- Touching Him. Playfully grabbing his arm or squeezing his knee while talking is a fun flirty emphasis to any conversation.
- Compliments. Genuine, sincere compliments are always welcome. WARNING: Do NOT overdo this. Sincere is the key word here. Think compliments, NOT flattery.
Practice makes perfect. Smile and make eye contact with everyone you meet. Practice flirting with men you feel comfortable with so you will be ready when Mr. Right comes along! Remember flirting is NOT seduction. Be playful, light and have a good time.
Happy Dating!